Your Life Can Change In A Moment

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“Think about it. When do people’s lives change? In a moment. It doesn’t change in 10 years. Your life may have sucked for 10 years, but there was one moment when your life changed: The moment when you decided.” -Tony Robbins

In my life, there have definitely been multiple moments and instances where my life suddenly took a turn for the worst.

Back in 2005, my parents got divorced. It completely shattered me. Our family instantly became torn apart, and the damage is still able to be seen, even to this day. And, that was the beginning of my downward spiral towards a pretty severe depression where I reached a point where I planned out my own suicide. Thankfully, I didn’t follow through.

Life changed, in a moment.

In 2009, my girlfriend at the time broke up with me. She was the first girl I ever really loved and cared a lot about. Everything in my life was progressing so well at that time. But, when she broke it off, it all came to a halt and I had to move back in with my mom to get resettled again.

Life changed, in a moment.

I instantly became severely depressed again. I didn’t move off the couch for weeks. I didn’t eat. I lost around 20 pounds in a matter of a few weeks. I stopped working on my business, cut off contact from most people, and just wallowed around in a gigantic self-pity party for the better part of 4 months.

Life changed, in a moment.

But, there have undoubtedly been moments and instances where my life suddenly, and unexpectedly, took a turn for the better.

After 4 months of feeling sorry for myself, out of nowhere, a work opportunity came my way that instantly changed my entire outlook on my life, injected me with a huge sense of desire, motivation, confidence, and optimism for the future. It gave me the courage to look at myself, come to terms with my weaknesses, demons, and mistakes, and finally start to learn to improve and love myself. And, it set me on a completely amazing path towards finding my passion and doing what I love every single day. It all started from a phone call. Thank you, Bryan. You saved my life that morning.

Life changed, in a moment.

I’ve been wanting to get into public speaking for the past year or so. I’ve spent the better part of that time creating my speaking topic, research my material, compiling it into an organized, well-thought, somewhat entertaining talk. Once that was all finished, I needed to land my first speaking gig. So, I emailed the men’s soccer coach at the University of Cincinnati asking if I could come speak to his team. He replied back the very next day and agreed.

Life changed, in a moment.

There have been more moments like this, both good and bad.

However, all of these moments have one thing in common: Right before the moment when my life changed, I had no idea it was coming. I couldn’t see it. All I could see was how things were the moment before the moment.

It makes absolutely no difference how you feel right now, or where you are at this moment. It doesn’t matter how bleak things may look, or how dark the space in front of you may seem.

It can all change for the better in a single moment.

You just have to believe that it will. And, you get to decide whether you want to believe or not. It’s completely up to you. It takes just as much energy and thought power to believe then to not believe.

Here’s another moment that profoundly changed my life: The moment when I decided to stop seeing every painful memory or every painful experience as a bad thing. The moment when I decided to see my parent’s divorce, my breakup with my girlfriend, and every failure I’d ever gone through as a source of power to make me stronger, life’s been nothing short of incredible ever since.

I recently just lost one of my best friends. He was like a brother to me. I’d known him for decade, if not a little longer. We’ve lived together, laughed together, and cried together. We shared in so many adventures and insane shenanigans. We’ve also fought and not spoken to each other before. But through it all, things always worked themselves out.

He didn’t die or anything. However, he made decisions in his life that impacted, not only our relationship, but his relationship with other friends, family, and people that cared about him. He’s now out of the country and there’s a good chance I’ll never see him again.

Again, life changed in a moment.

However, I see it as a source of power and learning. It’s taught me that our decisions don’t just impact us. They impact the people around us who care and love us deeply. It’s also taught me to value friendships and connections with others, and to not take them for granted so as to not realize something amazing only when it’s gone.

And, who knows. Maybe I will see him again one day.

I just want to be really clear about this. Really clear:

Don’t dwell on how things are right this moment, because in the very next moment, something could come along than can change your life for the better forever.

If you’re trying to exercise to lose weight, keep going and you’ll experience that moment when you stand on the scale or look in the mirror and see an improved version of yourself, which will then give you the drive to push a little farther and improve a little further.

If you’re an entrepreneur running a business that seems like it’s not growing, keep going and you’ll experience that moment when you make your first big sale, which will then give you the confidence you need to believe that you can do it and that things are moving forward.

If you’re a person who feels like you can’t do anything, that you’re no good, and that you’ll always screw up, keep going and you’ll experience that moment when you realize all of that is nothing but a bullshit lie you convinced yourself of, instantly injecting you with a feeling of optimism, motivation, and hope.

Trust me. I’ve been there.

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It’s 2015. It’s a new year. And, in the span of a human lifetime, a year is like a moment. 2015 could be the moment that changes your life forever.

You just have to believe.

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2 thoughts on “Your Life Can Change In A Moment

  1. Thankyou so much for this blog, because today is the day I realized that everything does change in a moment, the moment you stop believing the lies you told yourself all these years. I could never see the beauty that others seen in me but today is the day and I stumbled upon your blog, thanks for helping me know that everything does change in a moment

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