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In my work with people as a Mental Sports & Personal Development Coach with athletes, and even when I work with business people, family, or friends, one of the biggest issues I have to encounter is something that we all know all too well from time to time:
A total and complete lack of Motivation.
When it happens, it’s almost as if we’ve contracted some kind of lethal disease. Without our Motivation, there’s really no drive, energy, or enthusiasm to really want to get anything accomplished.
Like any disease or virus, in order to rid it of our system and get back to normal, we need to find a cure.
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Fortunately, there is a cure. There is a way you can create Motivation literally anytime you need it, and it’s something you HAVE to do every time you find yourself lacking Motivation.
In order to understand how to create Motivation, you have to first ask yourself a really important question:
“Where does Motivation come from?”
Notice that I said create Motivation. Motivation is not something that you can force. Closing your eyes, stamping your feet, and shouting to yourself, “BE MOTIVATED! BE MOTIVATED! BE MOTIVATED!” is never going to work. It’s not something that just randomly, magically, and mythically appears out of thin air. It has to be created. It has to come from a source.
That source is Desire.
Simply put, Motivation cannot exist, does not exist, and will not exist unless you have enough Desire.
The definition of the word Motivation is:
“The act or instance of motivating, or providing with a reason to act in a certain way”
“Something that motivates; inducement; incentive”
Motivation is the energy and the force that we need to take action so that we can achieve, accomplish, or acquire “something that motivates, induces, or incentivizes” us.
Desire is that thing or things that motivates, induces, or incentivizes.
Let’s look at a simple, everyday example:
You walk into your room. You see that it’s a disastrous mess. Clothes are everywhere, dishes are stacked up, and the bed blankets are all over the place. You immediately realize that you have no Motivation whatsoever to clean it.
*There’s no “incentive” or anything that’s “inducing” you to want to clean it. Simply put, your Desire for a clean room, or a room that’s not so messy, isn’t strong enough. If it were, you’d have the “incentive” and the “inducement” you need to have the Motivation to clean it. As a result, you don’t take Action.*
Now, let’s look at a much bigger, more impactful example:
You want to lose weight. You don’t like the way you look and feel, and you want to start exercising to get in better shape. You start working out, start eating better, and you’re doing a good job of sticking to your routine. However, a couple weeks in, you find yourself skipping workouts, eating junk food, and slowly falling out of your routine. You eventually give up, pack it in, and revert back to where you started.
*Initially, in the beginning, your Desire to lose weight and get into better shape was really strong. As a result of that strong Desire, you were Motivated to take action by working out, eating better, and setting up a daily routine. However, as time went by, and as things got a bit tougher, you started focusing on how challenging it was, how difficult it was to eat well, and how demanding it was to stick to your routine. Because of that, your level of Desire fell. The very thing that you were using to create your Motivation was gone, and as a result, your Motivation to continue taking Action with it. So came the end of your attempt to lose weight and get into better shape.*
This is what I call “The Motivation Merry-Go-Round”. It works like this:
#1 – DESIRE: First, you create a Desire for something: A clean room, losing weight, a job promotion, passing an exam, or winning a sports competition. It can be whatever you want it to be, or whatever you need it to be.
#2 – MOTIVATION: Once you have a Desire for something, that Desire you have for that something creates the Motivation you need; the energy, the drive, and the enthusiasm.
#3 – ACTION: Once you have the Motivation you need, that gives you the energy to take Action: clean your room, exercise, work over-time, study hard, or train/perform.
#4 – RESULT: Once you take Action, you’re going to get a result. The Result you get then reinforces your Desire and allows you to either go further, look for new things to go after, or set new goals to achieve, repeating and restarting the cycle. Because you got the result you wanted, now your Desire is stronger, your Motivation goes higher, you take even more/better Action, and you get an even more/better Results. Round, and round, and round.
All you have to do is use yourself as an example.
Have you ever had a strong Desire for something? I mean, have you ever had a Desire for something that was so strong, you stopped at nothing until you got exactly what it was that you wanted? How motivated were you to get that thing? As a result of your high level of Motivation, how much Action did you take? What kind of result did you get?
On the opposite side of the coin, have you ever had a Desire to do something that was so low you could’ve cared shit-less about whether or not you got it done? As a result of that extremely low Desire, how Motivated were you take to Action and get a Result, if you took Action at all? Even if you did take Action and see it all the way through, was the end Result what you would have wanted it to be or hoped it might be?
There’s something very important that you need to keep in mind:
The weaker your Desire, the weaker your Motivation. The stronger your Desire, the stronger your Motivation.
If you just kind of wish you could accomplish something, you’re going to have very little, if any, Motivation to take Action and get a Result.
If you really want something, you’re going to have a much more Motivation to take Action and get a Result.
If you’re OBSESSED with getting something, if you absolutely have to have it, and the Desire is a burning one, you’re going to be absolutely Motivated to take Action and get the Result. Nothing will stop you.
How can you build up your level of Desire so that you can create the Motivation you need?
1) Visualize – Corny, cheesy, and stupid, right? Well, have it your way. Don’t do it if you don’t want to. However, in doing so, you’re sabotaging yourself. Visualization is incredible. It doesn’t have to be anything super fancy. It can be something as simple as laying in bed at night seeing and feeling yourself getting the things you want in your life. Seeing yourself accomplishing the aims you have for yourself.
2) Vision Board – Create a Vision Board. Print out pictures of things you want to do, get, and achieve and post them into a collage that you can hang on your wall and look at every single day. It’s like Visualization, accept not inside your head. If you can’t or don’t want to print anything out, that’s fine. Go online, or into magazines, and save pictures of the things you want. Look at them every day.
3) Model – Who is someone or some people who have achieved/gotten the things you want? Go find them. Have conversations with them. Get their advice. Learn from them. Model them. Let them rub off onto you.
4) Read, Watch, and Listen – Go to Youtube and watch videos of people achieving. Watch movies that have stories about accomplishing things. Read books that can help you get what you want. Listen to music that inspires you and makes you feel good. Surround yourself with positive forms of media and reading material.
5) Interact – Want a new car? Go to a car dealership and test drive some. Sit in the car and feel it. You better believe your Desire will go up when you do that. Go to events, networking groups, and social gatherings. Interact directly with the things you want. Want to be an actor? Go watch some live theatre. Want to be an author? Join a writer’s club, or go to a book signing. Get in direct touch with the things you want.
The reason for doing these things is that, the more you do them, the more you visualize yourself getting the things you want, and the more you surround yourself and interact with people and the things that you’re after, the more the things you want will become impressed in your mind. You’ll think about them all the time and you’ll create an extremely strong Desire for having them. Once you get that high of a Desire, your Motivation level will skyrocket right along with it, because remember, Desire and Motivation correlate with each other.
I firmly believe it was understanding all these things that’s been the most important factor in getting me to where I am in my life right now. When I had nothing, when nothing was working, and when I couldn’t get any clients or business to save my life, I never lost my Obsession, my Burning Desire to get the result I wanted: A successful business, working for myself, doing what I love, every single day of my life. Had I not had such a strong Desire, I never would have had the Motivation to keep going and keep pushing, much less take Action.
Are you lacking Motivation? If so, get clear about what it is that you Desire, and fix that Desire in your mind so much, so strongly, and so often that you become Obsessed with getting it. I guarantee you that, at that point, you won’t have to worry about Motivation. And, if things get tough, challenging, and difficult, stay focused on your Desire. Stay focused on why you’re doing this in the first place. Concentrate and keep your mind fixed on what it is that you want. That way, you can keep your Motivation. You can keep going. You can keep pushing.